The Anti-Good Rule

When did it become common practice to see someone, and in passing, ask them how they are but continue walking without even a thought that they might reply? The frequency with which this happens appears to be increasing on a daily basis. Why is it that we ask the question if we don’t care to hear the answer? Are we not anticipating the answer? Do we not want to hear the answer? Well, then why the heck are we asking? Or do we really just care that little that we say it out of habit?

Maybe this goes hand-in-hand with the common response to this question (if one lingers long enough to hear it): “Good” … Are we “Good”? Probably not, most likely not but we still say it: “Good” … I personally have gotten into the habit of not relying on the “Good” crutch. I give an honest answer. That reply might be “Splendid! How about you?” or “Eh, tired. I can’t seem to wake up today. You?” … I found with a genuine reply the person lingers and conversation pursues. A true conversation; and when that happens, sometimes a friendship can be built on that one rule of mine: The Anti-Good …

Make this your new habit, see what happens & absolutely, absolutey do not keep walking next time you ask someone how they’re doing. Stop & wait for their answer. You might be surprised.

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